Do you have favorite movies that you know others are going to read your list and they will say one of several things, stuff like "Are you kidding?" or "You liked that?" or "That movie stunk!" Yes, the critics who either feel that no one can understand movies like they do or that movies have to be brilliantly made and technically superb or some such upper echelon type of critique. Notice I said favorite movies not "best" movies because they can and often are separate.
I bring this up because last we watched 50 First dates with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. A great flick? No, but for some reason keepers and I love that movie and I think it is because being in love with multiples is a different kind of love in that it requires more deliberate actions than a "normal" relationship requires. This last comment is bull! Any relationship needs special actions and cares taken, not just ones with a multiple. Maybe falling in love with a multiple made me more aware of what I should be doing no matter who the relationship was with.
Another of our favorite flicks, Secondhand Lions with Rober Duvall and Michael Caine. Critics hate it, say they aren't even close to being brothers in looks or anything, etc etc bla bla bla. Who cares??? We love the movie! HJ Osment as the kid is cool but the two brothers and their antics are a riot. Maybe keepers and I have a weird sense of humor compared to the rest of the people out there.
How about Pirates of the Caribbean? It's a movie based on a video game or a ride at an amusement park or something! Who cares? Johnny Depp is a hoot in this movie.
Here's another one we like, Homer & Eddie with Whoopi and Jim Belushi. Whoopi is dying and meets up with Jimbo who plays a man who was struck in the head by a line drive in a baseball game as a kid and was brain damaged forever after. Jim Belushi gives a wonderful performance and Whoopi is Whoopi, we love her in most things she does.
That brings us to two other favorites, One being The Color Purple, a simply fantastic movie, though a wee bit depressing at times, but it really conveys a time and a region so well and everyone acts wonderfully. The other one is not a movie but a concert by Whoopi, a one woman concert where she portrays different people from a valley girl to a Jamaican housekeeper to a junkie visiting Anne Franks home. Poignant, touching and a great presentation of what Whoopi is capable of.
Paint Your Wagon, Lee Marvin cannot sing, neither could Jean Seberg, Eastwood can to a degree and yet we love this movie and the soundtrack. Most critics hated it. Oh well!
Funny Girl with Barbra Streisand and Omar Sharif, all for sentimental reasons for keepers and I.
Not that the music is anything to sneeze at!!
The Quiet Man, Big Duke Wayne and Maureen O'Hara, I cannot tell you how many times we have watched this movie. Keepers being of Irish descent has a special place for this movie in their hearts.
Bambi by Walt Disney, Bambi, Thumper and Flower all the littles love them. How can you not?
So there you have a short list of some of our favorite movies that for the most part, critics didn't like, major exception being The Color Purple.
Maybe in a few weeks I'll put up a list of my favorites and then one from keepers perspective, until then the balcony is closed.
john michael
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
Sunday, August 27, 2006
Too Much
Late this afternoon we went to a small birthday party for our oldest granddaughter at our daughters house. There were 7 adults and 2 children. Now litle Sammi was celebrating her 2nd birthday or should I say her mom and dad and the rest of us were. Because little Sammi has no idea what is going on. She doesn't know what a birthday party is or why it is. She likes Dora the Explorer so that was the theme of the party, to the extreme.
Our daughter had decorations in the kitchen and living room, all of the plates were Dora, streamers, etc and I bet little Sammi had no idea as to the relevance or really cared. There was enles spicture taking and video taking because she had no idea it was her birthday and some day she will look and see the pics and video and maybe, just maybe remember one toy or special item she received.
She won't remember the other 49 gifts or even care. To say that way too many presents were bought would be an understatement. In my opinion for a 2 uear old it was utterly wasteful. In my opinion for any child it was wasteful and overdone. How anyone can think a 2 year can appreciate all that she received? At 2 years old you're not even into opening gifts yet, much less 50 of them!
Even if I was very very well off I can honestly say I would not do that. There is no reason to buy one child 50 gifts!!!! If they are 2 or 10 or 17 that is ridiculous. Especially when the child needs socks and shoes which can be Dora if need be. And what dare I ask is the sense in buying a two year old little girl a basketball hoop set, yes it is for little children but I really doubt that a two year old girl will play with it as much as her father will.
I don't get it. Too much is too much and in my opinion that is way too much.
Til tomorrow!!
john michael
Our daughter had decorations in the kitchen and living room, all of the plates were Dora, streamers, etc and I bet little Sammi had no idea as to the relevance or really cared. There was enles spicture taking and video taking because she had no idea it was her birthday and some day she will look and see the pics and video and maybe, just maybe remember one toy or special item she received.
She won't remember the other 49 gifts or even care. To say that way too many presents were bought would be an understatement. In my opinion for a 2 uear old it was utterly wasteful. In my opinion for any child it was wasteful and overdone. How anyone can think a 2 year can appreciate all that she received? At 2 years old you're not even into opening gifts yet, much less 50 of them!
Even if I was very very well off I can honestly say I would not do that. There is no reason to buy one child 50 gifts!!!! If they are 2 or 10 or 17 that is ridiculous. Especially when the child needs socks and shoes which can be Dora if need be. And what dare I ask is the sense in buying a two year old little girl a basketball hoop set, yes it is for little children but I really doubt that a two year old girl will play with it as much as her father will.
I don't get it. Too much is too much and in my opinion that is way too much.
Til tomorrow!!
john michael
Saturday, August 26, 2006
Caution: Life May Be Triggering
Posted 8/26/06 on http://www.keeperskorner.com
Triggers and causes of triggers have been a hot topic this week here at Keeperskorner and rightly so, we all have triggers, even us "singletons" or "non-multis" as I have heard us referred to as, and even those of us who have not suffered the traumas that the real survivors have had to endure and grow past and are on that healing journey we so often refer to here also. Man that was long sentence! In shorter words let me say, caution, life is full of triggers.
But...triggers are for individuals for the most part. What triggered T on the CD cover and the CD lyrics has never triggered keepers nor anyone else we know of and believe me we have been asking around. Yet, T's reaction triggered keepers, they began to fall into that very old guilt and we are evil mode, one that was thrown on their shoulders by the abusive family as well as an abusive therapist!
Triggers can be obvious, in fact in my opinion Lifetime cable channel is full of triggers in their selection of movies, you know the female in jeopardy of the day movies. I am not an abuse survivor but I can see how those movies could trigger any number of people.
I've seen keepers get triggered by going down the steps into a basement, more than once, and each time the abreactions began, triggered by the steps and location of the steps. I've seen them get triggered by a tone in a voice or a word. Each survivor has their own set of triggers and it is impossible for the people around them to protect them from every trigger, not without sealing them off in some manner which in many cases would be a trigger in itself as they were sealed off in their abusive situation.
I would like to quote Blue for a few lines here as she makes some very good points, in our opinion:
Keepers Korner is an AWESOME ministry
that has helped a LOT of people. Many more people will be helped if Keepers
Korner continues. The same is true of Morning Vision... I feel terrible
that our CD caused her abreaction... but I cannot shut down Morning Vision
because of it.... just like 4th of July Celebrations cannot all suddenly
cease because it causes some people to have flashbacks of Vietnam... There
will always be people that we cannot help for one reason or another... But
the important thing is that we are helping everyone that we CAN help and we
are willing and available to be used wherever God wants to use us. That is
all we can do. :-)
~ Blue
Great words Blue and thank you for them. We know for a fact we had helped T before the CD incident, she told us so in her emails, just as she had helped us, it was a win win situation for all concerned. We still consider her a dear friend of ours and if she or any of her family or friends do read our blogs we hope she will see that we do care and we have been examining all of the aspects of what happened and we hope as time goes by, she will be able to recognize it also.
Others have written us, asking us not to shut down, not to quit making the music available, not to give in to our guilt. As our readers have so stated, we cannot protect everyone though we try, for all we know there are people who have abreacted over a picture in one of the galleries, or a comment in a blog that hit too close to home for someone.
What it boils down to is that we are determined to continue on this journey, life is full of triggers for keepers and anyone else out there who is on this journey, all we can do is try to minimize them with honest efforts and continue on.
To all of you out there who come by this site and the many others who offer their stories on their sites, please be kind to each other, we all make what turns out to be a mistake even with our best intentions, we can only apologize and continue onward. After all that is our jouney, that is life, full of triggers, little land mines along the way, they can stop us for a while, they can even help us realize an issue that still needs to be dealt with. Triggers are God's way of saying, "You are not over that yet, let's work on it, okay?"
It kind of sucks to know that in the grand scheme of things our sending that CD hurt T; yet on the other hand it not only triggered memories but also triggered reaction, to work it out, to face it finally, to release the anger and hurt and move even further down the road of recovery. In that light it helps to know that the end result is growth for her, emotionally she has wounds that are scabbing over now, able to heal. I guess we are puppets in the hand of the Great One at times, maybe T can understand that now, just as we are beginning to also.
Caution, life itself may be triggering and yet it also may be healing.
Peace, blessings and love to each of you from all of us here at Keeperskorner, may you each heal in you own time at your own pace, but heal and grow and blossom and help those about you do the same.
John and Keepers
Triggers and causes of triggers have been a hot topic this week here at Keeperskorner and rightly so, we all have triggers, even us "singletons" or "non-multis" as I have heard us referred to as, and even those of us who have not suffered the traumas that the real survivors have had to endure and grow past and are on that healing journey we so often refer to here also. Man that was long sentence! In shorter words let me say, caution, life is full of triggers.
But...triggers are for individuals for the most part. What triggered T on the CD cover and the CD lyrics has never triggered keepers nor anyone else we know of and believe me we have been asking around. Yet, T's reaction triggered keepers, they began to fall into that very old guilt and we are evil mode, one that was thrown on their shoulders by the abusive family as well as an abusive therapist!
Triggers can be obvious, in fact in my opinion Lifetime cable channel is full of triggers in their selection of movies, you know the female in jeopardy of the day movies. I am not an abuse survivor but I can see how those movies could trigger any number of people.
I've seen keepers get triggered by going down the steps into a basement, more than once, and each time the abreactions began, triggered by the steps and location of the steps. I've seen them get triggered by a tone in a voice or a word. Each survivor has their own set of triggers and it is impossible for the people around them to protect them from every trigger, not without sealing them off in some manner which in many cases would be a trigger in itself as they were sealed off in their abusive situation.
I would like to quote Blue for a few lines here as she makes some very good points, in our opinion:
Keepers Korner is an AWESOME ministry
that has helped a LOT of people. Many more people will be helped if Keepers
Korner continues. The same is true of Morning Vision... I feel terrible
that our CD caused her abreaction... but I cannot shut down Morning Vision
because of it.... just like 4th of July Celebrations cannot all suddenly
cease because it causes some people to have flashbacks of Vietnam... There
will always be people that we cannot help for one reason or another... But
the important thing is that we are helping everyone that we CAN help and we
are willing and available to be used wherever God wants to use us. That is
all we can do. :-)
~ Blue
Great words Blue and thank you for them. We know for a fact we had helped T before the CD incident, she told us so in her emails, just as she had helped us, it was a win win situation for all concerned. We still consider her a dear friend of ours and if she or any of her family or friends do read our blogs we hope she will see that we do care and we have been examining all of the aspects of what happened and we hope as time goes by, she will be able to recognize it also.
Others have written us, asking us not to shut down, not to quit making the music available, not to give in to our guilt. As our readers have so stated, we cannot protect everyone though we try, for all we know there are people who have abreacted over a picture in one of the galleries, or a comment in a blog that hit too close to home for someone.
What it boils down to is that we are determined to continue on this journey, life is full of triggers for keepers and anyone else out there who is on this journey, all we can do is try to minimize them with honest efforts and continue on.
To all of you out there who come by this site and the many others who offer their stories on their sites, please be kind to each other, we all make what turns out to be a mistake even with our best intentions, we can only apologize and continue onward. After all that is our jouney, that is life, full of triggers, little land mines along the way, they can stop us for a while, they can even help us realize an issue that still needs to be dealt with. Triggers are God's way of saying, "You are not over that yet, let's work on it, okay?"
It kind of sucks to know that in the grand scheme of things our sending that CD hurt T; yet on the other hand it not only triggered memories but also triggered reaction, to work it out, to face it finally, to release the anger and hurt and move even further down the road of recovery. In that light it helps to know that the end result is growth for her, emotionally she has wounds that are scabbing over now, able to heal. I guess we are puppets in the hand of the Great One at times, maybe T can understand that now, just as we are beginning to also.
Caution, life itself may be triggering and yet it also may be healing.
Peace, blessings and love to each of you from all of us here at Keeperskorner, may you each heal in you own time at your own pace, but heal and grow and blossom and help those about you do the same.
John and Keepers
Friday, August 25, 2006
The Unseen Enemy***Caution May Be Triggering
Posted on Keeperskorner.com 8/26/06
Hello everyone, and I am assuming there is someone out there reading these, even though every indication is "no we're not". Ever since our friend received her CD from us and she went into abreaction over some lyrics and the cover, things have gotten really strange here at Keeperskorner. Even though we immediately put up an apology to our friend, even though we pulled the free music offer for the time being, we have seen absolutely no one visit this site except for two comments! We truly appreciate those two as they are in a very definite minority right now! We have had a few comments on my offsite blogs but several of those are from people who seldom visit Keeperskorner.
Is it just one of those periods where people aren't coming to our site? Or they are but not leaving comments? Nope, no views either until a few minutes ago when those 2 comments were posted. Other than that no visitors.
So what exactly is going on? To be honest I don't know but I do know that Keepers had a call in to Pastor Brown of the Save Our World Minsitry because he is a very spiritual man who we both respect. He called and when Keepers said they were ready to call it quits and close down Keeperskorner he went ballistic!! "Girl, what are you saying/" He then told her things are similar where he is except worse. He has been attacked verbally by some of the townspeople for running a cult!!! His children in his youth ministry are being ridiculed as members of a cult by other children in the town. We are talking about a town in the middle of the Meth producing capital of the US of A!!!! A town where drunks and meth addicts outnumber the Bible thumping Baptists and now Pastor's church is being ridiculed and name called!
He then told us he had a dream, last Saturday night, that for 2 weeks he and those associated with him would be under attack. It seems to be happening, not only us and him, but also members of another ministry associated with him. So, it appears we have another week to go of this "unusual" occurrences.
If Pastor Brown is running a cult it is the most Jesus friendly cult I ever saw, everything revolves around Jesus. Pastor asks for no donations, from anyone. He just prays people will. And guess what, they do. He has helped so many alcoholics and meth addicts in his area it is amazing.
So what are we going to do? As others have commented, it is not fair to remove the music from others as it may very well have no effect on others, we all know how different things trigger different people. We will put something out later this weekend on the music situation but it will probably be made available with warnings and cautions. Is Keeperskorner shutting down? No way!!! As Pastor said, If we do that the enemy has won another battle and our goal is to help the abused not start a sight to help and then abandon it. We know in our hearts we are helping some of you out there, we know in our hearts we never meant to hurt T in any way, we know in our hearts we have to go on being associated with Pastor Brown for all the good he does, we know we have to stand by Blue and Morning Vision as they are indeed Christian rockers who are trying to spread the word, we know we are going to stand up ourselves and try to help anyone who wants our help, be it music, artwork, gentle words of support, hugs over the internet, or calls from people needing a caring voice to say "it's okay".
We will not quit what we are doing. We believe we are right in what we are doing and if we do something injurious as in what happend to T we will apologize and move on. The apology will be from the heart but so is our determination to be a part of the solution and not the problem.
All of you out there must make your own decisions as to where you are going and how you are getting there. We pray you make the right decisions for you and those you love. We also pray we will all do this journey together hand in hand and heart to heart for that is part of the solution.
Peace and blessings to all of you, seen and unseen, heard and unheard, but all cared for.
John and Keepers
Hello everyone, and I am assuming there is someone out there reading these, even though every indication is "no we're not". Ever since our friend received her CD from us and she went into abreaction over some lyrics and the cover, things have gotten really strange here at Keeperskorner. Even though we immediately put up an apology to our friend, even though we pulled the free music offer for the time being, we have seen absolutely no one visit this site except for two comments! We truly appreciate those two as they are in a very definite minority right now! We have had a few comments on my offsite blogs but several of those are from people who seldom visit Keeperskorner.
Is it just one of those periods where people aren't coming to our site? Or they are but not leaving comments? Nope, no views either until a few minutes ago when those 2 comments were posted. Other than that no visitors.
So what exactly is going on? To be honest I don't know but I do know that Keepers had a call in to Pastor Brown of the Save Our World Minsitry because he is a very spiritual man who we both respect. He called and when Keepers said they were ready to call it quits and close down Keeperskorner he went ballistic!! "Girl, what are you saying/" He then told her things are similar where he is except worse. He has been attacked verbally by some of the townspeople for running a cult!!! His children in his youth ministry are being ridiculed as members of a cult by other children in the town. We are talking about a town in the middle of the Meth producing capital of the US of A!!!! A town where drunks and meth addicts outnumber the Bible thumping Baptists and now Pastor's church is being ridiculed and name called!
He then told us he had a dream, last Saturday night, that for 2 weeks he and those associated with him would be under attack. It seems to be happening, not only us and him, but also members of another ministry associated with him. So, it appears we have another week to go of this "unusual" occurrences.
If Pastor Brown is running a cult it is the most Jesus friendly cult I ever saw, everything revolves around Jesus. Pastor asks for no donations, from anyone. He just prays people will. And guess what, they do. He has helped so many alcoholics and meth addicts in his area it is amazing.
So what are we going to do? As others have commented, it is not fair to remove the music from others as it may very well have no effect on others, we all know how different things trigger different people. We will put something out later this weekend on the music situation but it will probably be made available with warnings and cautions. Is Keeperskorner shutting down? No way!!! As Pastor said, If we do that the enemy has won another battle and our goal is to help the abused not start a sight to help and then abandon it. We know in our hearts we are helping some of you out there, we know in our hearts we never meant to hurt T in any way, we know in our hearts we have to go on being associated with Pastor Brown for all the good he does, we know we have to stand by Blue and Morning Vision as they are indeed Christian rockers who are trying to spread the word, we know we are going to stand up ourselves and try to help anyone who wants our help, be it music, artwork, gentle words of support, hugs over the internet, or calls from people needing a caring voice to say "it's okay".
We will not quit what we are doing. We believe we are right in what we are doing and if we do something injurious as in what happend to T we will apologize and move on. The apology will be from the heart but so is our determination to be a part of the solution and not the problem.
All of you out there must make your own decisions as to where you are going and how you are getting there. We pray you make the right decisions for you and those you love. We also pray we will all do this journey together hand in hand and heart to heart for that is part of the solution.
Peace and blessings to all of you, seen and unseen, heard and unheard, but all cared for.
John and Keepers
Monday, August 21, 2006
Nobody Girl aka Rainbow
The young lady to the right is or should I say was known as Nobody Girl. Since then her name has been changed to Rainbow. She is one of the keepers. What is so amazing to me is that when we go to other sites and view artwork by other multiples and abuse survivors more often than not we encounter images much like this one.Maybe she should be renamed again...to the Everybody Girl because she seems to be an authentic constant for these very important people. She is representative of something they all feel, all have in some way or another. She is the embodiment of "no one cares about me" and "I am worthless" neither of which is true, the feeling are true the statement is not. For these people who survived are worthy and they are cared about.
She has a big sister of sorts, namedHope and hope is the sa
me as Nobody, or Everybody or Rainbow, except her head is up and she is looking upward past a tear stained eye. She has hope and because she does so do we.As supporters, as significant others, as partners or friends, we all need to pledge and give our support to all of the Nobody girls, no matter what their real name so they can each have and become Hope in every sense of the word.
Sunday, August 20, 2006
This n That
This is a potpouri blog, first off I would like to remind those of you that read an earlier blog about From Continuance to Mission that my wifes website keeperskorner
has gone from being a site about support and selling art to being solely support with the art being donated to survivors who want a particular piece maybe because it touches them in some way or because it captures some of their feelings or inspires them or whatever their particular reason is. It has become a ministry of sorts for su, to help other people on their healing journey in most any way we can. There is even a toll free number for US residents to call us just to hear a friendly voice. We cannot give advice as we are not prefessionals, just people who have been through a lot and are still going down that road, but we are good listeners and sometimes that is what people need the most. Please feel free to visit keeperskorner and perhaps recommend it to anyone you know who may in recovery from an abusive situation.
It is interesting how things work out some times. I receive a message from a friend over on Yahoo 360 and I reply back very simply. I think I am on her mailing list and someone else mails her and she mails them and the next I know I am getting copied in on several other message strings. Somehow, someway as one of the people said they received a reply from me and then visited this blog and asked to add me to thier friends list. I was pleased to and will add them also, expanding the range of this site as well as theirs.
Keepers, my wife, SO, friend, partner are continually amazed, as am I as to how we all can learn from each other. It appears so and so is really having a rough time on their blogs, we comments and it is obvious that all who visit see a person in dire straights, in a "real pickle" and then two days later here they are, writing a blog that you go, sheez I never thought of that or wow, that is so right, so true I wonder why I never saw that before! We all can learn so much gain so much insight if we take the time to listenm to read, to hear what others are saying. Try it, you will learn something about others and maybe even about yourself.
Lastly, I wish more people would leave comments both on keeperskorner
and here and on the Yahoo 360 site. We know people are visiting and reading but few are leaving comments. We all need more points of views, more perspectives, to see if we are heading in the right direction, providing what people want or need. There are other things we could write about, but we also need requests for our point of view or our experiences. Let us know what you want and we will try to do our best to provide it.
Til next time
john michael and Keepers
Sunday, August 13, 2006
Feelings
This is a copy of what I wrote on the blog at Keeperskorner which is directed to those abuse survivors both MPD/DID and non who visit Keepers site, who write to her and me and we in turn write back, offering support and getting support. Here it is.
Most of you who will be reading this will know exactly what I say when I say that feelings are so easy to hurt. Each of you, whether a multiple or a survivor or both know it all too well. A mis-spoken word, a forgotten promise or worse yet an ignored promise, a lackadaisical attitude of oh well, all hurtful things to each of you. Let's face it you are very fragile in many ways even as you are strong in so many ways. You are the strongest crystal made.
Most of you who will be reading this will know exactly what I say when I say that feelings are so easy to hurt. Each of you, whether a multiple or a survivor or both know it all too well. A mis-spoken word, a forgotten promise or worse yet an ignored promise, a lackadaisical attitude of oh well, all hurtful things to each of you. Let's face it you are very fragile in many ways even as you are strong in so many ways. You are the strongest crystal made.
Are you resilient? very much so. Are you able to pull yourself up and keep on going? Oh, yes, undoubtedly. Are you strong when one would expect weakness and hurt when one would say, why? Only when one did not pay attention. For if we pay attention we know why.
I have read so many blogs in the last 6 months or so and one of the most common threads is how fearful people (by people I am referring to those involved in these blogs, writers and commenters) are of hurting other peoples feelings, how very careful they tend to be in choosing their words and also in their actions. They are very sensitive people, and after all they have been through wouldn't you expect them maybe to be just a bit coarse and cold? But they are not, at least the ones I have read and visited. Oh yes, there may be alters who are harder and more able to say enough is enough but as a general rule you are all very sensitive. Even after all you have been through. That is what makes all of you so very special in this world. You still have gentleness, thoughtfulness, feelings of a good nature.
You are all indeed remarkable and I mean that to each of you. I have read where Amelia's feelings were hurt, or
How I wish I could get through to your friends, your family members, your coworkers, your T's, your webmasters, your loved ones and on and on and how I want to get through to them how very fragile you are. Some of you are stronger than others, but there are pieces inside each of you that are just as fragile as crystal and has to be treated as such. I have to remind myself of the same thing sometimes.
You all deserve to be treated kindly and with respect, it is not so much to ask. Do I think you should be treated with kids gloves? To a degree.
You are all wonderful, you are all special, you are all survivors, you are all deserving of the best of treatment not only from me, but from each other and also from those around you. I pray you all will receive the respect and care you offer each other from the others in your lives and if I ever fail to live up to this with Keepers or others out there who I write to and receive communications from, please let me know. There have been times I let Keepers down, I am not proud of that but I try to do right by them and to all of you others who may be reading this. If I let you down let me know and I will try to make it right. What I have learned is when I hurt you it takes more time for the trust to come back and I do not want to lose that with any of you.
Am I saying that to Keepers or you or you or you?? I am saying it to all of you, especially Keepers but to all of you who are on this journey with Keepers, hand in hand and heart in heart
because you deserve it and because the journey shouldn't be any rougher than it already is.
I hope and pray those around you feel the same way, if not now, then soon, very soon.
Peace and blessings to all of you
John Michael
Sunday, August 06, 2006
Sexual Terms Abuse Survivors
- see the title to this blog? I was searching blogs for sexual abuse survivors and this one came up. give you one guess what it wasn't about! This type of thing pisses me off, that someone would put a sexual blog into blogs about survivors . to me, people who do this are no better than tose who commit abuse or rape because they are showing complete and utter disrespect for people who have been through abuse but putting crap in the middle of some serious blogs.
this happens with websites also, it is by no means restricted to blogs. in any such instance as this the people who do it are to be considered scum. How they can have so little regard or respect for what survivors have gone through? This also tends to tell me they are like this with other things also. I guess what i am saying is that i would have no desire to be around someone like this. They are most probably bigots in every sense of the word. They are most likely the kind of person most of us would rather not be around. If they are this insensitive and coarse i doubt of they have many associates except other slike them.
i don't care who wants to go to a porn site or a nudie site, to each his own, but don't you think putting it in the middle of something like sexual abuse survivors is NOT going to get you a lot of hits? Which leaves me thinking it was done with no intent to getting real visitors only to irritate and exasperate someone who was abused or their significant others who may be looking for help or guidance or comfort. Which brings me back to my original theory, you must be scum.
Maybe we can get rid of your blog, maybe not, but I ask everyone who runs across blogs or sites that are disguised as serious, helpful sites to please help me get rid of them. By complaining to blog site administrators, whatever method works. If you know of how to deal with these please let me know so I can publicize it.
john
http://www.keeperskorner.com
Saturday, August 05, 2006
Who'd a thunk it
Who'd a thunk one screen door would bring so much joy into the world? Keepers have been slowly rearranging our family room into their art studio where they can create their artwork, work on calligraphy, write poetry, work on the website, keeperskorner, read other friends blogs, etc and we finally bought a new screen door to replace the old half destroyed one we had. Now when it's not 100+ degrees they can open the door with the screen door there, turn on the attic fan and get a nice breeze flowing through the room. It may be the crowning touch for the studio, for the time being at least.
Now, the other two who really like the screen door are Max and Owen our cats. They love it!!! wow, look at that over there...and over there...what's that? Never been this close to the squirrels before or the birds!!! Owen lays there on the landing floor and inches his way closer to the screen, watching the goings on outside in our backyard. Then stretches out and lets the breeze rub his belly.
Max watches intently, good place for trapping flies!! Bat it this way then that way then swallow it, spit it out and chase it all over again.
One door...priceless.
Now, the other two who really like the screen door are Max and Owen our cats. They love it!!! wow, look at that over there...and over there...what's that? Never been this close to the squirrels before or the birds!!! Owen lays there on the landing floor and inches his way closer to the screen, watching the goings on outside in our backyard. Then stretches out and lets the breeze rub his belly.
Max watches intently, good place for trapping flies!! Bat it this way then that way then swallow it, spit it out and chase it all over again.
One door...priceless.
Wednesday, August 02, 2006
Why???????????
- Why??
- As I read other survivors stories, like Marias
and keepers
i wonder how and why those in authority can get away with their blatant disregard for the welfare of children, whether it is in an institution or a private home. Maria spent way too much time in a horrendous children's home with her sister and Lord knows how many other children while keepers spent a life of horror in thier parents and other relatives homes in Missouri, Arkansas and I am not sure where else.
In Maria's case the Catholic church ran the institution and thier nuns inflicted the terrible treatment to all of the children. In keepers case the catholic church ignored what was going on even though their mother was a teacher in their grade schools and could have been putting even more children at risk. When keepers were older they went to a priest who did absolutely nothing.
Seems to be the norm for the catholic church and its officials. Ignore it, cover it up, never ever admit guilt if at all possible. When all else fails pay 'em off. Sad to say from what I have read, this is a problem not only in the catholic church and institutions but in the other religions also.
To me it is disgusting that the very home of supposed religion and godliness houses so many sick perverts and then covers it up!!!
Yes I know there are good people in the churchs but the apple barrel is rotting from the bad ones. The stench and rotteness is growing daily. Is it any wonder more and more people are becoming spiritual in their own ways, seeing God in the mountains and streams and the star lit skies and not in the churches made by man and in some cases being destroyed by man.
Finding God within oneself and those about you instead of blindly accepting the priest or the nun or the reverend or the deacon or the minister as the voice of God and who we should listen to seems to be a growing movement in the world. Organized religion and its churches are not being accepted as 100% sacred and infallible and that is good!!!!!!!! Because they are not and sadly they are housing a big part of the worlds problems when one considers the children they affect now and those in the past.
Do not blindly accept any religion or church, do not accept their doctrine as infallible or as the whole truth. Religion is man made, spirituality is made by each person as their relationship with God, the Great Spirit, or whatever name you know your God by, is developed and adhered to. Good is good, it's that simple. When a church official says this is good then there should be no reason to hide it, to deny it, to pretend it does not exist.
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Peace and blessings to all of you out there in blogland
john
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