Why?

For the last six weeks keepers have been babysitting our granddaughters at their house while our daughter was in an out patient program, this was three days a week. So those three days I would drop keepers off on my way to work then visit them and the girls at lunch time and then pick keepers up on my way home. We truly enjoyed being with the granddaughters so much, because before this we saw them seldom even though we live close.

The in laws get all the prime times with them especially holidays and special days. This isn't about them so i will just leave them there. Preceding these 6 weeks of assisting them keepers had discussions with our daughter about our son and his family, our daughter claimed to be seeing very little of him and his family. We have seen him hardly at all for a myriad of reasons. The most important of which is that since keepers are abuse survivors they are very sensitive to it. Our son as a teenager was asked to watch our neighbors house, feed the dog, cut the grass, etc. After they came back home we were presented with him having gotten into their teenage daughters underwear drawer. As Keepers were in therapy then we asked another therapist in that office to see him and help him.

When our oldest daughter was married in another state we all went there for the wedding, a lot of people were staying at their home those several days. After the wedding we were told that one of the couples that left to spend the last nights in a motel did so because our son was fondling her feet in the middle of the night, uninvited!

His step daughter is now a teen but has for years stuttered and acted rather oddly. We have our suspicions as to what may be going on. We were approached by the pastor who married our daughter if this young girl had any particular problems we knew of, because she seemed to be troubled to her. Another possible sign. Granted, her real father, supposedly is or was an alcoholic, her mother is a gem also, our son's wife, so the possibility exist that this child has been abused in one form or another by several people.

Now our daughters two daughters, the two keepers were babysitting for...keepers and I fear for their safety. Our daughter informed us today that our son and his family are a major part of their life, will always be invited to holidays and special days so he can be a part of the festivities.
After all we had told her, after her possibly being abused by keepers family also, after knowing that her older sister was not comfortabel around big brother, she still wants him to be a part of their life with their daughters! She says she is watching him and so is her husband, but she also lied about their relationship with him.

We told this son he needed help, he responded angrily and how he had never molested anyone (being a cop he is so well versed on his legalese) and how if we didn't leave him alone we would be sorry. We told him if we ever hear of anything inappropriate by him we will go to the authorities and at least fill in the background and let them go from there. So we are having a standoff with him at this point in time.

Keepers are devastated that the daughter would seemingly ignore their daughter's safety by letting him be around them. That she could look at his step daughter and not see probelms there. Said daughter worked in several hospitals and dealt with many abused girls and young women, she knows the effects, and yet she accepts him into her life so freely!

In several weeks we have an appointment with an attorney from the Attorney General's office because Keepers reported a former therapist to the State Licensing Board of Review, he is being charged on five counts and may lose his license. Perhaps then is when we need to speak up about this family, our son, his wife and let the authorities take it from there.

The cycle has to stop.

peace and blessings

john