Ever since he was notified by the state he has tried to get keepers to change their mind, and he did get through to some and convinced them to rescind their complaint. Luckily the state said sorry but we have filed the charges after our investigation so we are going forward. Then for a long time we heard nothing. Then he starting calling me and sending me emails at work. I kept a log of his phone calls and saved the emails and forwarded all of that to the state. Then nothing again. Last Friday, how weird, it was Friday the 13th, he sent us a regular letter thru the mail and now he wants Keepers to assist him in standing up to the State and the "experts" because he knows how to treat multiples therapeutically!! But he needs their help and help of all multiples to beat the system!
We do not know if this is his next step in trying to confuse Keepers or if his cheese has slid off his cracker. I called the State Board and the local attorney for the Attorney Generals's office who is handling this and faxed and emailed a copy of his letter. The attornei I spoke with locally is also confused by his actions. The last time I spoke with her, back in July she said there was negotiations going on, maybe he would accept 2 charges if 3 were dropped, things of that sort, but today I was told he has cut off negotiations. He wants his hearing. No one knows what he is doing. Keepers are very confused because other therapists have labelled him a sociopath so not only are they confused but scared of him.
My whole point here is something I hae felt for a long time and several therapists somewhat agree with me, most people who get into the career of therapy have their own problems, most to a degree that does not prohibit their becoming a good therapist (I tend to not agree with this comment) but some (most) are just as messed up if not more than their patients. Like some who become clergy and use it to hide their perversions many therapists are also looking for victims who they can easily maneuver. There are few more vulnerable than multiple who were abused severely, their littles can be tricked just as they were many years ago. It takes a sick you know what to do it in the first place but it takes an even sicker person to capitalize on those suffering victims and revictimize them for their perverted pleasures.
To all and any of you out there who are seeking therapists for multiplicity and sexual abuse be very careful of your therapist. Be watchful for clues of misguided actions and ideas that you question somewhat. Your sense of something is not right should be listened to and heeded very strongly. Your initial or first impression should be listened to. It is your therapist, ask as many questions of them and other patients as possible. Try to check with the local governing body who licenses them and see if there are any complaints. Never ever stop listening to your inner selves if they are trying to warn you, there has to a reason they are setting off alarms!
What follows is an article I wrote for Many Voices, it has a checklist of sorts and maybe now is a time to bring it out of the mothballs so new visitors can read it...
Bad Therapy Warning Signs
By John W.
My wife, whose system is known as The Keepers, is recovering from DID. We have only been subscribing to Many Voices since December. We were wondering if there have been articles about abuse by therapists, or warning signs of an "evil therapist". By "evil" I mean anyone who derives their pleasures from tormenting someone who is so vulnerable.
We recently learned that her previous therapist was not what he claimed to be. The Keepers were advised by their new (legitimate) therapist that he should be reported to the state ethics board. With great trepidation, they did. Where this is going from here, we do not know, but Keepers are finding it extremely difficult to stay in therapy after being mistreated and betrayed by not one but two therapists in the last twenty years.
We would like to bring attention to warning signs for DID person and their loved ones to look out for:
- Beware of therapists who cannot prove their degree of certification or misrepresent themselves. If you are considering a therapist check them out as best you can.
- Beware of therapists who lead you to believe that they also have multiples like you do. It is one thing to be in touch with your inner self, but to say your little ones understand or your motherly side can comfort them, is all bull.
- Beware of therapists who will not read the latest articles or go to seminars because they think it is bologna or they know more already, or they don't respect psychologists and /or psychiatrists. Honest to God, this is what this one therapist said to us!
- Beware of therapists who say they will talk with another of your doctors, be it MD or another therapist and then do not follow through.
- Beware of therapists who say no one else can understand you like they do, because of their experience with you or because they have "connected" with you, for whatever reason.
- Beware of therapists who will not sign their name or position/title. This one used a "nickname". Never once did we ever receive anything in writing from him in his own name with his title or position.
- Beware of any therapist who promotes, allows, or encourages any sort of sexual interfacing between them and you, for whatever reason. It is never appropriate and is only for their benefit, not yours.
- Keep a diary of your therapy or have a loved one do it or perhaps both of you, especially if there appears to be anything unusual. No matter how many perspectives this results in, it is and will be beneficial.
- Beware of therapists who constantly complain about how much they are going through, how they are taking abuse from you, how you treat them badly.
- Beware of therapists who tell you they are the only one who can nurture you, who knows how to treat you best.
Peace, blessings and love
john michael
No comments:
Post a Comment